As I sit here and watch my children run around and play, as I sit here and stare at their beautiful faces and take in their childish manners, I shudder at the thought of people out there advocating to rob them of their innocence. How can anyone look at a child and think that it is okay to take anything from them when they don't even have the capability of fully understanding what is happening to them? As a mother and a victim, I can attest that I have spent numerous nights tossing and turning and weeping because I had had a dream about my child being hurt and abused in some way. I have been abused in lesser degrees than many others and still I cannot and will not tolerate history repeating itself through my children or any other child I have responsibility over, moreover, I cannot condone anything worse happening to them.
In this article from the Northern Colorado Gazette, there are many horrific statements made in regards to pedophilia becoming a simple sexual orientation. One is "that the 'negative potential' of adult sex with children was 'overstated' and that the 'vast majority' of both men and women reported no negative sexual effects from childhood sexual abuse experiences." I'm sorry but the vast majority is not the entirety and how would anyone feel if it was their child who failed to make the vast majority list? What if your child became mentally unstable, a recluse, failed to maintain normal relationships, became an abuser his/herself or even committed suicide because their mind failed to accept sexual abuse as being okay? From a very personal standpoint I can argue this statement until my heart grows weary and my lungs collapse. I was abused as a child, a teenager and a young adult and each abuse snowballed and each abuse caused it's own break in the fabrication of my mental stability. Sometimes the effect is mental, sometimes it is physical and always, it is emotional. It took many, many for the pain from each abuse to fade and even now, having a family and a loving husband, sometimes, the past creeps in like a poisonous viper and paralyzes me from the inside out, even if just for a moment. I have also known people from different spectrums of life that can testify that any sexual conduct, regardless of how big or little, is etched in their brain forever until they die. Perhaps it doesn't affect their sex life later on, though I know it can, it will affect them as a person, how well they trust people and relationships, how well they adapt in social atmospheres and how they develop mentally. How many autobiographies have I read about people who were abused as a child and struggled to find normalcy in their adulthood? Countless, almost every single one. Actually, this makes me realize, if I have heard so many personal stories and have read so many books about detrimental child abuse and according to a study, the vast majority isn't negatively sexually affected, then there must be a countless number of people who have been abused and never voiced or reported it or reported it untruthfully. This is a sad, sad thought. Abuse is Abuse no matter how one looks at it. How can one put the words 'overstated' and 'abuse' in the same statement and think that it can be justified, especially with children?
Another statement made by psychologist, Van Gijseghem is: Pedophiles are not simply people who commit a small offense from time to time but rather are grappling with what is eqiuvalent to a sexual orientation just like another individual may be grappling with hetersexuality or even homosexuality.
It is never a 'small offense' to take advantage of a minor who is unable to stand up and protect him/herself, whether it's rape or petting. The fact that these people are comparing pedophilia to homosexuality enrages me; it is not at all like someone struggling with hetero or homosexuality. Homosexuals did not fight for rights to manipulate or abuse another being, they fought for the right to have consensual sexual relations with a member of the same sex. A child will never be in a consensual sexual relationship with an adult because they are not mentally capable of knowing or understanding what a sexual relationship even is. A child who is touched in the wrong place will most likely not say anything at the moment it is happening because s/he doesn't even know what is happening until later on and if the child is a little older, even though they don't know why this abuse is happening, they know that something feels wrong about it. In a heterosexual or homosexual relation, the involved parties are mentally mature enough to know what is happening. A man and a woman, a man and a man, or a woman and a woman are both in agreement of a sexual relation. Even in a worst case scenario where it is not consensual, an adult of any sex, is mentally capable of addressing the situation before them and God willing, able to make a personal decision as to whether any action takes place and take action based on that decision. Rape is rape, regardless of age, but to rape a child is monstrous.
In regards to pedophilia being a sexual orientation, sure okay maybe it's something that can't be changed, but it still robs another person of their own rights, it abuses another person, a child and it should remain illegal. As my husband stated, just like with the act of rape itself, some people like to take it by force, that is their fetish, so should we legalize rape just because these rapists can't help themselves? I like to think that no one in this world would condone this. But then, what is the difference when an adult takes it from a child who is not strong enough mentally or physically to put up any sort of defence.
Linda Harvey, of Mission America, states that the push for pedophiles to have equal rights is "...all part of a plan to introduce sex to children at younger and younger ages..." Why? We already know that kids as young as 11 or twelve are already sexually active, basically, if a child has reached puberty, they will be sexually curious. To what purpose is there in introducing it earlier and earlier? It is hard enough to keep children innocent these days, why are people trying to steal this away from them even more so? We are given only a few minor years of just playing and doing childish things, living with no responsibility and very little consequences, even adults say that they wish they didn't grow up so fast. How many people say, "I wish I was a kid again or my favorite memory is of when I was 5 or 16 [or whatever age it was] and we went camping and I caught a big, big fish"? Who are we to rob someone of that time? What person, even one who was sexually active at a young age, has looked back at their childhood and has said, "Oh that [sexual encounter] is my most fond memory"? It is incredulous. Even if the child we are looking at is a teenager, we all know that the teenage years are tumultuous, bad decisions are made left, right and center; that's why kids are meant to live with their parents until they are adults and are able to make logical, wise and mature decisions. We adults are meant to rear and protect the young ones because they need it. They need to be taught right from wrong. They need to be taught their rights. Sex is so multi-faceted, it affects the very core of a person's being, every aspect of their life. It is our most valued treasure and gift, and having said that, it is a gift to be given to another person, if not affectionately, at least willingly, and not taken by force or manipulation.
The IASHS lists, on its website, a list of “basic sexual rights” that includes “the right to engage in sexual acts or activities of any kind whatsoever, providing they do not involve nonconsensual acts, violence, constraint, coercion or fraud.”
Granted, I am not an expert in the law nor do I claim to be but I cannot understand how they can say that pedophiles who, earlier in the article, are claimed to have commited abuses and offenses have a right to our children to engage in sexual acts with them. Would you consent to giving your child to a neighbour who has the intent of having sex with him or her? Would your child consent to it? If your child did consent to having sex with an adult, do you believe that that child knows what he or she is actually consenting to? No. The answer is and always will be No because this is a child we are talking about. A child: a young human being; an immature or irresponsible person; a person who has little or no personal experience in a matter. Let's not do this to our young ones just to acquiesce someone's sexual gratification. This is not equal rights. What about the rights of the child? What about our rights, legal and God-given, as parents and as citizens? Will we no longer be able to rely on the law to protect our children? What kind of future are we creating for ourselves and our offspring? Let these sex offenders challenge the law but for the sake of all of our children, do not let them change it.